Our libido depends on an alert and fully engaged sensual life. Even in the company of great love, our interest in sexual intimacy depends on the relationship we cultivate and maintain with sensuality. All 6 of our senses—sight, hearing, smell, taste, touch, and intuition—need regular attention and activation. Reverence for regular, mindful, satisfying sensual experiences—not matrimonial or relational obilgation—will lead the way for us to more comfortably access the life-force energy we call sexual intimacy.

The more detached we become from life’s pleasures and focus our efforts on productivity, the more fatigue and sensual atrophy we will experience. And with that, our libidinal energy will plummet leaving us marooned in the land of “No”: no time, no energy, no opportunity, no sex.